A CHAMPION'S GUIDE TO XI COMMON PROBLEMS
Written by Leonardo Delizo, PhD, MSBA
PART V HOW TO MEET SORROW
1. Philosophy. To begin with, one must have a philosophical realization that there are certain inevitabilities in human experience which must come to each of us. Such philosophy will prepare you for sorrow and help you meet it when it comes.
2. Godness. Nothing that God ever ordained is bad. Therefore, God’s goodness is to be found even in our sorrows. His goodness is given to your loved one who has gone and it is given to you who remain.
3. Continue. For your own normal readjustment, continue your life of activities as before. Don’t avoid places that were familiar to your loved one. Carry on as before; in due time, the knowledge that your loved one would want you to do so will comfort you.
4. Lose. Never say you have “lost” your wife, husband, child, brother, or sister. Remember the words of the poet: “Love can never lose its own.” You have not lost that loved one, they merely living in a new dimension and are not very far away.
5. House. “Where is my loved one?” the sorrowing heart asks. And the answer is a simple one. Your loved one is in the Father’s house of many mansions, surrounded by love and beauty, and is well, strong, and happy. Just tell yourself he or she is all right --- quite all right.
6. Meet. Remember the old hymn. “In the sweet bye-and-bye, we shall meet on that beautiful shore.” Hold to that as a fact, as the truth. God made it possible for us to meet here, and he also will make it possible for us to meet “over there.”
7. Heal. Perhaps the best way to heal your own sorrow is to help heal someone else’s grief. When you give out sympathy and love, they come back to you doubled. Make a list of all the sad people you know, and try to bring comfort to them. You will find amazing comfort and healing for yourself in doing so.
8. Absorb. Know one great fact about yourself: With God, you can absorb any experience, however sorrowful, and come up victorious. There is an adjustable and resilient mechanism in human nature, and when a person has a deep religious faith the recovery from grief comes easier.
9. Expression. Give normal expression to your grief. Do not try to bottle it up and contain it. God made tears for a purpose, and that was to relieve. A tear is agony in solution. Don’t be ashamed of your grief or try to repress it. Cry it out and pray it out, and peace will come.
10. Resurrection. Perhaps the greatest healing of sorrow is to be found in your faith. Repeat some of the great words of Jesus, who understands your sorrow. Use such statements as, “Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life. He that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live…Whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die” (John 11:25, 26).
Source: Norman Vincent Peale
Written by Leonardo Delizo, PhD, MSBA
PART V HOW TO MEET SORROW
1. Philosophy. To begin with, one must have a philosophical realization that there are certain inevitabilities in human experience which must come to each of us. Such philosophy will prepare you for sorrow and help you meet it when it comes.
2. Godness. Nothing that God ever ordained is bad. Therefore, God’s goodness is to be found even in our sorrows. His goodness is given to your loved one who has gone and it is given to you who remain.
3. Continue. For your own normal readjustment, continue your life of activities as before. Don’t avoid places that were familiar to your loved one. Carry on as before; in due time, the knowledge that your loved one would want you to do so will comfort you.
4. Lose. Never say you have “lost” your wife, husband, child, brother, or sister. Remember the words of the poet: “Love can never lose its own.” You have not lost that loved one, they merely living in a new dimension and are not very far away.
5. House. “Where is my loved one?” the sorrowing heart asks. And the answer is a simple one. Your loved one is in the Father’s house of many mansions, surrounded by love and beauty, and is well, strong, and happy. Just tell yourself he or she is all right --- quite all right.
6. Meet. Remember the old hymn. “In the sweet bye-and-bye, we shall meet on that beautiful shore.” Hold to that as a fact, as the truth. God made it possible for us to meet here, and he also will make it possible for us to meet “over there.”
7. Heal. Perhaps the best way to heal your own sorrow is to help heal someone else’s grief. When you give out sympathy and love, they come back to you doubled. Make a list of all the sad people you know, and try to bring comfort to them. You will find amazing comfort and healing for yourself in doing so.
8. Absorb. Know one great fact about yourself: With God, you can absorb any experience, however sorrowful, and come up victorious. There is an adjustable and resilient mechanism in human nature, and when a person has a deep religious faith the recovery from grief comes easier.
9. Expression. Give normal expression to your grief. Do not try to bottle it up and contain it. God made tears for a purpose, and that was to relieve. A tear is agony in solution. Don’t be ashamed of your grief or try to repress it. Cry it out and pray it out, and peace will come.
10. Resurrection. Perhaps the greatest healing of sorrow is to be found in your faith. Repeat some of the great words of Jesus, who understands your sorrow. Use such statements as, “Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life. He that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live…Whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die” (John 11:25, 26).
Source: Norman Vincent Peale
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